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How to know is somebody's listening you?

How to know is somebody's listening you?Edit

Andrzej Jeziorski · 431 user posts · 26 user answers

People always ask me: how to know is somebody's really listening you ("coding" what you say to him"). The answer is: look him at the eyes (body language), when person is blinking his eyes, he is registering what you're saying to him. 
 
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When, he's not blinking – his not registering what you're saying to him. Remember about this when you're talking to people. 
 
Best speakers characteristic skill is to listen in ratio 2:1 (2 ears, 1 mouth). Ask questions if you don't know about the speaker is talking about, admire his achievements. Be open when speaking with people with positive expectation. 
 
Why is this knowledge important to know? To don't "produce" yourself to people who don't listen. You don't need to tell them about it, but you know. Think the rest for yourself (do further deductions). You should probably also learn about the subconscious body language, mirroring, creating rapport. 
 
<div class='r'><img src='http://path-of-power.com/i/274/220px-Eye_opening_and_closing.gif' alt='eye blinking'/></div><code>Blinking is the rapid closing and opening of the eyelid. It is an essential function of the eye that helps spread tears across and remove irritants from the surface of the cornea and conjunctiva. Blink speed can be affected by elements such as fatigue, eye injury, medication, and disease. The blinking rate is determined by the "blinking center", but it can also be affected by external stimulus. When an animal (usually human) chooses to blink only one eye as a signal to another in a social setting (a form of body language), it is known as winking. Some animals (for example, tortoises and hamsters) blink their eyes independently of each other. 
 
source: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blink</code>

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People always ask me: how to know is somebody's really listening you ("coding" what you say to him"). The answer is: look him at the eyes (body language), when person is blinking his eyes, he is registering what you're saying to him.

Like on this video:

When, he's not blinking – his not registering what you're saying to him. Remember about this when you're talking to people.

Best speakers characteristic skill is to listen in ratio 2:1 (2 ears, 1 mouth). Ask questions if you don't know about the speaker is talking about, admire his achievements. Be open when speaking with people with positive expectation.

Why is this knowledge important to know? To don't "produce" yourself to people who don't listen. You don't need to tell them about it, but you know. Think the rest for yourself (do further deductions). You should probably also learn about the subconscious body language, mirroring, creating rapport.

Blinking is the rapid closing and opening of the eyelid. It is an essential function of the eye that helps spread tears across and remove irritants from the surface of the cornea and conjunctiva. Blink speed can be affected by elements such as
fatigue, eye injury, medication, and disease. The blinking rate is determined by the "blinking center", but it can also be affected by external stimulus. When an animal (usually human) chooses to blink only one eye as a signal to another in a social setting (a form of body language), it is known as winking. Some animals (for example, tortoises and hamsters) blink
their eyes independently of each other.



source: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blink

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