Likeability: how to dramatically make your relations better?Edit

Why likeability is so much important in life? The answer is very simple: if you know much people and you're the one which is liked – you get very much opportunities to take part of. Where when you're not likeable by people you stay and sit alone. It's important to be one desired, not the one who is always hated and nobody even likes him.

If there is only 1 thing which I could persuade to you to start do from no on to dramatically increase the quality of reactions of your friends / other people I would like to be this 1 rule:

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STOP FOREVER CRITICIZE (NEVER CRITICIZE), STOP TO CONDEMN, STOP TO INSTRUCT PEOPLE. JUST ACCEPT PEOPLE "AS THEY ARE" WITH BARELY: UNCONDITIONAL ACCEPTANCE.

It's so important that I've decided to write whole article about it, because applying it would bring your whole life on new level, completely! Where please notice that stopping this "automated reactions" would be (could be): very hard on the beginning, on the end you would end as completely new person! It's worth it more than you even thought off.

Why it's so important to don't criticize people (stop forever to do that)? Because by criticizing people you're making yourself hated. Do you like when somebody criticizes you? I know it's something like constructive critique and it's needed, but avoid to do it, forever. Just smile, avoid any critics and judging. Instead find in a person something which you like and compliment it (I know it's sometimes even hard to find anything). If you can't just don't ever, ever criticize, condemn or instruct, please.

Critic is destroying for people – they could not handle it sometimes and they crash, sending to you Karma. Critic is destroyable almost always, so stop to do that! Did you've got ever experience that you've worked for hours, days or maybe months on something which you've gave a lot of passion and work? Do you remember the moment that somebody approached it (view it) and said: "What a piece of shit!" Remember what you've felt? Another example which everyone has is when somebody criticized them with something or told "bad opinion". It probably touched you and you've started to hate that person (not everybody). Memorize that feeling and remember that when you actually criticizing anybody he actually feels the same (shit) feeling.

Fact is nobody likes to be criticized, so do you have interest to another person or you don't have any: never criticize for anything. Make it rather indirect or tell a story to person get the point: instead (if you must and really have got interest). End.

It would be very hard on the beginning to stop completely those bad habits, but if you will – you're relations with people would increase and you would experience far more advantages by applying this, that by keeping the old habit patterns. Think it for a while.

Did you know that everybody knows that he has made a mistake or the work wasn't good? It's only up to him to judge his work, not yours. Remember it.

Besides, do anybody likes to listen to the advice of the "worst than you" (or maybe people who also "have defects") people who are giving you instructions (like "oh alcoholic! in my house; you can only drink"). You know yourself and everyone knows that it won't inspire any change, so why to continue this? Does it really helps? Use this methods, I've got nothing more to say – those articles I write, as I presume you've already spotted aren't for reading – they're only purposely to make your life better and to change it in all areas to suit it for your dreams. So, go to work – no criticizing of anybody, anywhere, never; no condemning, no "instructing" other people unless they're begging (and do it in a "avoidable" way also, by "citing" other people and without criticizing). Put it straight – apply it.

Also critic is to:

LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE WHEN THEY SPEAK, DON'T INTERRUPT THEM WHEN THEY'RE TALKING [#1], ASK QUESTION, BE OPEN AND SMILING, SHOWING TOTAL ACCEPTANCE FOR THEM.

Take it as a tip. If you're not listening to anybody: nobody would listen to you – you would end hated, nobody would like you and it would be a stimulus to take action and to change yourself. Did you spotted it already?

It's better to listen, because you find new information from other people. Read the #1 article and the important articles below on upgrading your speech (language patterns). Do you speak more than you listen? You're in trouble.


Important.

· PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT, Self Improvement, Personal Growth and Gaining Self Confidence,
· NEUROLINGUISTICS, Covert Hypnosis, NLP language patterns in use,
· INFLUENCE On PEOPLE, How to Influence, Affect People,
· LAWS Of POWER, Power Laws, Power Minors,
· HOW TO SELL, PART I: general rules (introduction),
· HOW TO SELL, PART II: manipulation in action (manipulation techniques),
· HOW TO SELL, PART III: Inner game (fake it, till you make it) in practice,
· ATTRACTIVE TO MAN, how to make a man want you,
· How do know if woman is really interested in you? IOIs Indicators of Interest List.

… 2011-08-21.

• Be a patient listener (it is this, not fast talking).
• Never look bored.
• Wait for the other person to reveal any political opinions, then agree with them.
• Let the other person reveal religious views, then have the same ones.
• Hint at sex talk, but don't follow it up unless the other person shows a strong interest.
• Never discuss illness, unless some special concern is shown.
• Never pry into a person's personal circumstances (they'll tell you all eventually).
• Never boast - just let your importance be quietly obvious.
• Never be untidy.
• Never get drunk.

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